Decision time

I’ve pretty much come to a decision. It seems every guy wants the avatar body for sex but doesn’t really want to spend time with me. Therefore, I am going back to system avatar except for spending time with real friends that I already know and trust. I want to spend time with someone – I don’t just want sex. I’ve had a couple I actually did enjoy time with, but unfortunately neither of them actually want to BE with me much. So that’s it. No more sexy body for Sagefairy until such time as someone shows willingness to be friends and not just lovers.

Apparently having a nice avatar is NOT the way to find a nice guy. In fact, it seems to be just the opposite. I’ve attracted some real nasty and critical ones several times, and several that don’t seem to know what they want. And some that know what they want but it isn’t to be friends.

Let me be clear: this isn’t just about being female. From what I’ve seen of relationships in SL (or metaverse entirely) this is not confined to females. Women out there are looking for partnership but primarily for a nice male avatar to be coupled with. Some of them won’t even consider a guy with a system body or anything that is not currently up to date. They just want to be seen with a nice looking guy, regardless of what’s inside. I’ve never been like that. The only reason I upgraded is because of my first partner. Most of the time he wasn’t even going anywhere with me so I am not sure why it mattered. In the end, it seemed like he just didn’t want to be alone and wanted a nice av to look at.

I admit I do enjoy being beautiful in 2L, but it comes with so many drawbacks and actually works against finding the right person to be with. Not to mention being beautiful can make some people afraid to be partners because they are afraid you are too attractive to too many. I won’t cheat, but if I’m broken up with or not partnered, I am free to find someone who *will* spend time. And I want more than just a one night stand, or sex.

Spend conversation on me, not money. And stick around for heaven’s sake. . One person says a few words and then bails on me. Not doing that anymore either. I’ll be pretty either in my house where no one can see me, or with friends and that’s it. Even shopping, I’ll be system.